We rush to speak, afraid of silence. But the space we leave can be the doorway to something deeper. This is what I learned about connection, courage, and the quiet moments that change everything.
So I’m giving it a few moments of space before I respond to this… as the reflection has me pondering who I do this with. Not jump in just to start talking, fill up the space, or feel like I need to validate them or vice versa. It’s only a few. Those very dear friends. I’ve been dating a new guy we can share silences in and that feels nice. I’ll be thinking of your post now in any new conversation and will be interesting to see how others react when I purposely do this… it’s a refreshing way to communicate. Thank you.
"They often need that extra time to find the courage to share what’s closest to their heart." - that's a real takeaway sentence for me. I find slowing down in general to be a deeply healing, centering process. It gives space for us to hear/feel our thoughts, intuitions, feelings. It makes us feel more human and more whole.
Slowing down is so valuable and yet so frequently people want to speed up. I recall what my nonviolent communication instructor said in a class talking about how slowing down can also prevent arguments. You will never see an arguments and think to yourself "man, this argument is so slow paced!"
So I’m giving it a few moments of space before I respond to this… as the reflection has me pondering who I do this with. Not jump in just to start talking, fill up the space, or feel like I need to validate them or vice versa. It’s only a few. Those very dear friends. I’ve been dating a new guy we can share silences in and that feels nice. I’ll be thinking of your post now in any new conversation and will be interesting to see how others react when I purposely do this… it’s a refreshing way to communicate. Thank you.
I'm would love to hear what type of results you get.
https://open.substack.com/pub/24hourmama/p/talk-about-it?r=m89d9&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web
I am someone that people feel safe with. It is such an honor. I'm learning how to use it for good.
"They often need that extra time to find the courage to share what’s closest to their heart." - that's a real takeaway sentence for me. I find slowing down in general to be a deeply healing, centering process. It gives space for us to hear/feel our thoughts, intuitions, feelings. It makes us feel more human and more whole.
Slowing down is so valuable and yet so frequently people want to speed up. I recall what my nonviolent communication instructor said in a class talking about how slowing down can also prevent arguments. You will never see an arguments and think to yourself "man, this argument is so slow paced!"